Here is a simple fact: The ones who win in a relationship are the ones that let love in.
Love teaches us to live in the moment. Love is vulnerability with an open heart. Love is not interested in the past or the future, only the present moment. The mind, however, seeks to assimilate the past with the present in order to predict the future.
What is the level of risk involved with what I am experiencing? Am I interested in becoming who I really am in this relationship or am I more interested in controlling the outcome?