Relationships today have a different quality and intensity than they did 50 years ago. In a world full of drama and pain & suffering how do we navigate through the challenges of today? We live in a world of instant gratification and it’s a struggle to remain in our power when there is constant stimuli trying to split us out. By splitting out however, we step out of our power and away from any real growth potential.
Relationships are intended to help us step into the truth of who we really are and can be our greatest teachers. Unfortunately, when discomfort arises that’s often when the couples of today jump ship. But discomfort may not always be an indicator that there is something wrong with the relationship; it can often be an indicator of growing pains.
Many relationships start off on a high then slowly power struggles begin to emerge, tainting the true connection. Power struggles are born out of fear and can only be healed through love. They can range from the extreme (such as with abuse) or in much subtler forms where one or both parties need to control the outcome just to stay ‘safe.’ People will continue to struggle with power & control issues until one learns to access their power from within and not without.
Here is a simple fact: The ones who win in a relationship are the ones that let love in. Love teaches us to live in the moment. Love is vulnerability with an open heart. Love is not interested in the past or the future, only the present moment. The mind, however, seeks to assimilate the past with the present in order to predict the future. What is the level of risk involved with what I am experiencing? Am I interested in becoming who I really am in this relationship or am I more interested in controlling the outcome?
In the world of you being YOU, how comfortable are you with that? And are you comfortable with sharing the real YOU with another by being vulnerable? Is it safe to do so? When you can let vulnerability in, harmony can take root and we are more able to relax & enjoy the ride.
If you are feeling uncomfortable in a relationship, ask yourself these questions before jumping ship. Have you given your power away to your fears? Have you given your power away to the past or future? Do you have obsessive thoughts that stop you from living in the present? Do you find yourself defending your position or debating who’s right or who’s wrong? Do you need someone else to change so you can feel comfortable again? Are you looking for proof that the relationship will not work, only to be guaranteed that intended outcome? Are you living in the past, having difficult with letting go or harboring any un-forgiveness?
If you have answered yes to any of the above questions then maybe take a step back before you walk away. Is there any growth potential left for you here? Can you be guaranteed that the issues that are showing up in this relationship will not be present again with another?
Sometimes what makes us uncomfortable has nothing to do with the relationship at all and everything to do with something within ourselves that needs healing. The discomfort can be the trigger but it doesn’t mean that the person doing the triggering is to blame.
Relationships of today are complex and each has to be evaluated on an individual basis. Some relationships are too challenging and are best to walk away from. But many are let go of to soon, just to be replaced by another.
You were brought together for a reason. Have you stayed together long enough to fulfill its TRUE purpose or are you jumping ship? Is there any real potential left and is the person you are sharing the journey with worth growing with? Growth on any level can be uncomfortable but it has always proven to be worthy. Just like you.
~ Exerpt from “You Can Heal Your Chakras” by Angela Strank